tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post8675145692194701565..comments2024-03-28T10:37:38.851-11:00Comments on Intelliblog: TO FLIRT OR NOT TO FLIRT?Intellibloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04262938291462934103noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-25587830958771122922009-08-03T22:04:34.836-11:002009-08-03T22:04:34.836-11:00I think Jacqui above has the right idea. Yellow li...I think Jacqui above has the right idea. Yellow light and Red light sound like a good idea to me.<br />For me it depends on the "Flirter". In its true definition flirting is harmless fun, a compliment and an appreciation of the attractiveness of another person (not necessarily the exterior appearance).<br />Some "Flirters" are slimy and offensive - they do not understand the meaning of the word and their motive is not paying a compliment.Penthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02226869141298079186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-14815493300396581962009-08-03T16:12:13.583-11:002009-08-03T16:12:13.583-11:00Guacomole c'est si bon - first off, I'm so...Guacomole c'est si bon - first off, I'm sorry for the bad experiences you've had too. <br /><br />But I just had to reply - I think you well illustrate what flirting *is* - flirting, like sex, always has to be consensual, otherwise it's not really that at all, is it, it's instead annoying and distressing as you described. And then, surely, it has its basis in power games, and not in playfulness as true flirting has ...<br /><br />Not intending to sound as if I think I know all about it! Just offering some analysis and thoughts ...Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09740381927768808077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-70984339563543762932009-07-31T23:00:18.271-11:002009-07-31T23:00:18.271-11:00Unfortunately, I beg to differ with your friend...Unfortunately, I beg to differ with your friend's opinion here with regards to flirting at the work place.<br />First off, he passes it off as something "harmless" and as something very "fun filled and desirable" Unfortunately the target of many an undesirable flirting doesn't think of it as neither harmless nor fun.<br />There is a big difference between how the perpetrator and the victim view this behavior at the workplace.<br />The people who are trying to flirt with work colleagues are doing so because somewhere they are getting something out of it,,some hormonal boost, some feeling of well being, some happiness but when they call it harmless, all they are reiterating is that they have no real serious intentions of taking it any further in terms of dating or having a relationship with that person.so basically , flirting for harmless fun is an irresponsible act of a coward.Either ways, workplace is no place for flirting.<br />It might be entertaining for the person wanting to flirt this way but for the person being unnecessarily and repeatedly subjected to uninvited flirting, it is annoying, distressing and undesirable to say the least.<br /> If there are no set rules to where to draw the line, it borders on harassment especially when the person attempting to flirt with you is your boss or professional superior and you fear to even aptly make it known that you are hating this uninvited flirting.<br />Infact, I am glad we have strict workplace rules in the US.<br />Because at the end of the day I have zero respect for people who try to entertain themselves at the work place at the cost of someone else's time and peace of mind.<br /> A work place is a work place.It is not a night bar.<br /> If you are romantically interested in a person you might as well ask them out on a date and then flirt with them on that first date.If on the other hand you are married/not really looking for romance or a serious relationship and have no interest in taking this flirting any further , why flirt at all? is it coz ,inspite of your inability to take it any further you still need that hormonal boost ?Not fair.<br />Flirting at a party is still okay , coz ofcourse the occasion is all casual, but then even at a party trying to flirt with someone with whom you have no real intention of having a real relationship even if the other person responds to your flirting, is a clear act of irresponsible cowardice..Ya know, a situation where you know you just use the other person for your temporary entertainment.<br />So, well, i think, Australia must have clear work place harassment rules too. <br />I am sure men who want to harmlessly flirt might find sexual harassment rules at the workplace a great hindrance but for women and certain men who actually just come to work to work and work alone, these rules are such a blessing.<br />Just had to pitch in my two cents coz sexual harassment at the work place is so rampant and can cause such mental anguish to the victims I can't begin to tell ya!Guacamole C'est si Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02495482494884293902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-51105208583480584662009-07-24T17:34:58.825-11:002009-07-24T17:34:58.825-11:00I am a completely inept flirt, and I have always g...I am a completely inept flirt, and I have always greatly envied gifted flirts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-66416304260932444382009-07-19T01:56:28.814-11:002009-07-19T01:56:28.814-11:00Love the comparison to birds - to flirt like wrens...Love the comparison to birds - to flirt like wrens or fantails, dancing around ;)Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09740381927768808077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-25976841044078267572009-07-18T21:42:52.645-11:002009-07-18T21:42:52.645-11:00I like flirting and getting flirted with, but some...I like flirting and getting flirted with, but sometimes it has been misunderstood (and gotten me in trouble)! Since then I am very careful.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13969764234193384841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-59142291287233855102009-07-17T08:45:06.898-11:002009-07-17T08:45:06.898-11:00Mignon McLaughlin got it absolutely right!
One ei...Mignon McLaughlin got it absolutely right!<br /><br />One either has "it" or doesn't have "it". It is a 'gift' (a gift???)that one is born with and it never goes away!The Blog of Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00650938872732748697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417961221792880115.post-71929045643277581032009-07-16T09:05:18.245-11:002009-07-16T09:05:18.245-11:00Good word. And it is true we do take the fun out o...Good word. And it is true we do take the fun out of flirting over here. I must say I like the way the Navy handles it with "lights". If the flirting starts getting a bit out of hand the offended person just calls yellow light warning the flirter to cool it. And a Red light means stop it.<br /><br />The light calling can be a bit flirtatious in and of itself. I used to be the only girl engineer in a major construction firm and one had to learn to cope with flirting and also to set limits without offending anyone.JBinford-Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293248281473648182noreply@blogger.com